Author: drphindi
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Letting Go of My House: Embracing a New Chapter
For years, my house was more than just a structure—it was a reflection of a life I thought I would build, but never truly settled into. It was my marital home, a space where memories were made, lessons were learned, and where I, in many ways, outgrew my old self. But now, the time has…
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Redefining “Arrival”: Navigating Life After Divorce
As children, we’re conditioned to believe that “arriving” means reaching a certain milestone—achieving the career we want, marrying the right person, and creating a picture-perfect family. For so much of my life, that was the goal. Finish school, become accomplished, get married, have children. And then, I would have arrived. But what happens when life…
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Officially Divorced
So what is next? For now, I just want to enjoy moving without the weight of a man who adds no value to my life. And enjoy traveling with my toddler.
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Get a Pre-Nup
Five years into our marriage my net worth was drastically different from when we first met. I now made five times more than my husband and had substantially more in retirement. I was carrying the family financially. This was the reality I failed to consider as a student. But here I was, living in a 50/50 state with my…
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Big Little Feelings
The absence of her dad in the home needs to be weighed against the exposure to abuse inside of the home. Which one is more detrimental? There is perfectly good data out there that what a child needs is one loving parent. Children need to feel loved, safe and secure.
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My Sisterlocks are Symbolic
I decided to take the leap and loc my hair. This was several months after filing my divorce. I think the decision was symbolic. I had spent years listening to the opinions of others and not living my truth. Now it was my time. So many emotions during this process, but most of it joy.…
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When God Sends You a Sign
The pandemic was a very difficult time for me. I remember the early days, waiting for COVID patients to flood the emergency department. The anticipation. The fear. The media coverage in other parts of the world looked grim. What was COVID going to do to me and my family. Little did I know that COVID…
Becoming Phindi 